If you're not moving forward, you're going backward.
Yeah, yeah, society. Shove it. (Oh. Sorry, Mom.)
Society tells us we should forge out on our own and choose the road less traveled, but they also criticize our identities if we ever appear to stop moving.
If you know me, you know I'm never without a dream or goal in sight. This is one of my greatest strengths, but it sometimes gets things a little janky when I'm determining what's next.
I have to be careful what I decide to do next because my motives are often masked with benevolence, but are steaming with a desire to please other people and their view of what I should do. I'm often faking 20/20 vision into the future when a brick wall in the maze of life is directly in front of me, attempting to steer me to the right for something unexpected.
Do you remember that song we used to sing when we were kids? "_____ and _____, sittin' in a tree; k-i-s-s-i-n-g!" It goes on to give you a laundry list of life goals including love, marriage, baby in a baby carriage. BUT, the key here is that there's a distinct order implied. The same is true for just about everything until you graduate college.
Then, this crazy thing happens where everything is supposed to stay the same for 60-70 years after it was consistently changing at least yearly, if not much more frequently before that. Huh?
There is a general order of things. Yes. But once we get to the great abyss of adulting, we forget how to choose anything that veers from the linear--or so we think it to be--path.
Do you trust God to straighten out the teeny-tiny tangles of your decisions in order to achieve his glory and define your purpose?
Think about it. Do you trust that? Or do you assume it's your job to control the decisions, and if you mess up, then you must do your best to get "back on course?"
Who defines the course? Are you banging at a brick wall in front of you because you're holding onto what you think should be next?
We lose that tangible value of what we can't see and trade it for what we can put our finger on, no matter how secondary that visible path might be.
Life is not linear like your high school counselors believed it to be. It's messy. (At least mine is. I might be doing it wrong.) It veers in directions that we think could never lead us anywhere until God brings us to a point in our journey that's exactly what we've always dreamed, but nothing like we've been able to envision for ourselves.
Well, I don't know this, but my hope in the Lord tells me this is true.
So, step off that treadmill of achievement. Don't think about what came next for everyone else. Just like Nancy Ray said in her Instagram story today, think about who you want to be when you're 80, and ask yourself, Are you making steps to become that person TODAY?
WELL, ARE YOU?
Let me know in the comments!
P.S. If you're looking for a great book around stepping outside the traditional path and owning your passions, here are a few suggestions:
Restless: Because You Were Made for More, by Jennie Allen (Read it with Emily and loved it!)
Nothing to Prove: Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard, by Jennie Allen (Have not read it yet, but I've heard great things.)
You are Free: Be Who You Already Are, by Rebekah Lyons (Read it and am forever changed!)
Girl, Wash Your Face, by Rachel Hollis (Less faith-heavy, more career/girl-power oriented.)